Marriage Preparation

Congratulations on your engagement! As you are taking your first step on the path of love, we are here to assist you on your journey.

“Love is indeed ‘ecstasy,’ not in the sense of a moment of intoxication, but rather as a journey, and ongoing exodus out of the closed inward-looking self towards its liberation through self-giving, and thus towards authentic self-discovery and indeed the discovery of God.”
—Benedict XVI Deus Caritas Est 6

Completion of the following steps provides you with necessary preparation for the Sacrament of Matrimony in the 7 Steps to a rewarding Marriage preparation Experience Diocese of Phoenix. The Diocese of Phoenix mandates a nine-month preparation process effective January 1, 2010.

Attending a Wedding Orientation Seminar is required prior to meeting with your priest. Wedding Orientation Seminars are a 1-2 hour meeting with a member of the Our Lady of Mount Carmel Wedding Coordinator team. Wedding Orientation Seminars are conducted individually with engaged couples at the parish office. To schedule a Wedding Orientation Seminar please contact Toni Logan at

Step 1: Meet with your Pastor (Before you set a wedding date)

Step 2: Marriage Preparation Inventory

When: As soon as possible after meeting with your parish priest

The Marriage Preparation Inventory is called the FOCCUS at OLMC. The FOCCUS is now offered online. Please email Toni Logan at with the following information: Bride and Groom Full Name, Address, Home and Cell Number, Email, Wedding Date, Location of Wedding and Priest you are working with. The charge for the FOCCUS is $20.

Step 3: Married Life Skills Training

When: 7-8 months before the wedding

Parish Course – OLMC offers the Unitas, which meets 7 Friday evenings in the Preschool Building from 7-9pm.

Love for Life Engaged Weekend - The Diocese offers classes at the Diocesan Pastoral Center in downtown Phoenix and at other locations. Registration available online at ($135).

Step 4: God's Plan for a Joy-Filled Marriage

When: 6-8 months before the wedding

Registration available online at ($85).

Step 5: Natural Family Planning Instruction

When: 4-6 months before the wedding

Click here for parish-based NFP classes.
You may find alternative classes offered by the diocese.
Please visit the Office of NFP website($100).

Step 6: Sacrament of Reconciliation

When: Before the wedding, as necessary

Step 7: Final Meeting with your Pastor

When: 4-6 weeks before the wedding

At this point you will be ready to think about your wedding liturgy. In the Our Lady of Mount Carmel Parish we have wedding coordinators and the wedding music coordinator available to meet and assist you with the liturgy. Please view Contact Information.